Recently, I've been thinking more and more about the 'stereotypical differences' between men and women; men prefer jokey conversations, women are all about emotions. Men fantasise about a hot blonde in a schoolgirl's uniform for 16 hours of the day (the other 8 are spent sleeping), women imagine themselves cosied upto Johnny Depp, talking about philosophy and music. When arguing, as soon as the word 'fuck' is mentioned, men go back to thinking about that hot blonde within seconds whereas women can carry on their nagging for days.
One difference that has refused to leave my mind though is the difference in opinions that men/women share on one night stands:
"A guy gets all the glory the more he can score, while the girl can do the same and you call her a whore." - Christina Aguilera
It's always been the stereotypical tag attached to men that they LOVE one night stands. It's a night full of passion, you don't have to get the girl's name (unless your a gentleman) and the idea of asking for her number is ridiculous. With this, it's always been said that one night stands make women feel exploited, cheap and dirty.
But in this day and age where pretty much everything is considered normal (not even lying, yesterday I saw a man walking around Brighton town centre in chains. Nothing else. Just chains, strategically placed, thank God), women's feelings towards one night flings are apparently changing.
Yesterday night, I sat down with one of my friend's, who had just spent the night with a guy she really liked and gave her this speech: "Babe, why are you worried about it? Guys do this kind of things ALL the time. You spent the night with this guy, you had fun, you felt hot and it was the perfect end to a crazy night. Guys come away from these things bragging to their friends so why can't us chicks?"
Don't get me wrong, I wasn't suggesting she go out every night and sleep with any random chap, but is it really such a bad thing? Men are *allowed*, expected even, to walk away from night's like that and feel nothing. Why is it so bad that a girl do the same?
You hear all sorts of horror stories about one night stands: STI's, tragic phonecalls the next day confessing undying love, unplanned pregnancies (definitely on a different par to the undying love thing, don't get me wrong) and I get all of that; they're not exactly the most pleasant thing. But for one night, you get to lose your insecurities/inhibitions, have a total laugh with a stranger (in some cases, not a total stranger) and enjoy yourself.
I don't like that those 3 things are supposed to be left to the fellas whilst the girl cries in a corner, feeling guilty and hating herself. It's too old fashioned for my liking.
So girls, let's leave the guilty tears, the negative feelings and the drama behind. Don't make a habit out of it, but enjoy yourself for one night.
I mean, if Example can walk away feeling nothing but fond memories, then why can't us girls?
"Miss Whatever-Your-Name-Was...still though, that was one night to remember"